What Is “Incel” Anyway?

Incel, otherwise known as “involuntary celebacy,” is a frequent condition of love shy (or dateless) men. Incel is precisely a lack of sex. In contrast, love shyness is a lack of intimacy at all levels. Many love shy men are uninterested in sex without emotion (for example, with prostitutes) and therefore love shyness and involuntary celibacy are one in the same. [...]

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REVIEW: Love Bold

Lovebold.com Our review: 5 out of 5 stars. The quick dish: The most practical, most important book we’ve found on how to cure love shyness. The book provides easy to understand, direct advice on how to be comfortably intimate with women. Most importantly, the advice has worked for the both of us. We also like that it’s not a PUA guide, [...]

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REVIEW: Shyness and Love: Causes, Consequences, and Treatment

Our review: 3/5 stars. The quick dish:  This is the book that started it all.  Originally published in 1987, Dr. Brian Gilmartin sets out to establish an academic framework for studying the loveshy condition among males.  Gilmartin does an excellent job of rigorously describing and defining what it means to be loveshy.  He interviews over 200 men who meet his [...]

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REVIEW: The Love Shy Survival Guide

Our review: 2/5 stars. The quick dish: An informative, well-intentioned book by a love shy sufferer that, unfortunately, misses the mark. We appreciate that this book exists, since so few on the topic do exist, and he clarifies the definition of love shyness well, but ultimately the book suffers from bad advice. Do not take this as a survival guide, [...]

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“Losing It.” How To Make Your 1st Time A Little Less Awkward.

WARNING: This post contains graphic content. At loveshyness.org, we strive to give loveshy males all the information they need, including the graphic bits.  If you get easily offended by sexual language, I suggest checking out one of our other articles. So … You’re About To Have Sex. As with all things, you will get better at sex with practice.  Unfortunately, [...]

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How To Survive And Thrive On A First Date

So you’ve managed to get past the first major barrier in your loveshyness: asking a girl out. Good job!  But now what are you supposed to do with her?  The point of the first date is to get to know each other a little better- to see if there is any chemistry.  But you also want to do something memorable [...]

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The Skinny On “Male Lesbian Syndrome”

What The Heck Is A Male Lesbian? Male lesbian is a term coined by Dr. Gilmartin, who also coined the term “Love Shy.” A male lesbian is a man who desires, or even expects, a woman to seduce him and initiate in most to all romantic and sexual endeavors. It’s a controversial term, implying that heterosexual males lead and heterosexual [...]

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Living With Incel (Involuntary Celebacy)

Are you celibate? Looking for ways to deal with it? I was celibate into my late thirties, and not because I wanted to be. The entire practice of sex mystified me. I understood what it was, of course, I heard about many sexual experiences from my friends and watched a lot of pornography, but I did not know how men [...]

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Love Shyness Vs. Social Anxiety – The Difference

Loveshyness can all too often be passed of as a symptom of a more general pattern of social anxiety. Loveshyness has been ignored by the psychological community at large.  It has not been included as a diagnosis in the DSM-IV, a database of current psychological diagnoses.  However, social anxiety disorder is prominently featured. The problem is that many love-shy’s do [...]

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What Is Love Shyness? 4 Signs That You Are Love Shy.

If you think that you may be or are love shy, fear not!  You are not alone.  An estimated 1.5% of males are loveshy.  Around the world, there are nearly 60 million loveshy men.  Next time you are at a sporting event or concert, look around, and see the hundreds of other loveshy men surrounding you. So, how can you [...]

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